He walk’s back and forth waiting, waiting to hear the one thing, the one more thing that will be that moment that validates his need to pounce and begin the attack.

It’s not the one thing that is the source of the attack, it is what’s been brewing inside for days, months, perhaps even years.

And so it is for the camel. It’s not that one extra piece of straw that breaks its back. It’s the heavy loads of straw day after day that the camel is forced to carry. Then one day, one extra piece of straw is added and the camel, turns its head towards its owner and through his eyes says, “Really? Well, screw you, I’m done!” The camel folds his knees under him and collapses to the ground.

Long before we ever reach that moment of graceless lashing out, at an unsuspecting soul, the innocent bystander or even the guilty party; our inner self has alerted us to an imbalance.

The Divine Voice that whispers, “Yoo-hoo, yes you. You’ve outgrown this friendship. This job; you know it’s not a good fit for you. Your relationship; you’ve been unhappy for how long now? That shirt, I know you’re not blind. Can you not see that the buttons are ready to pop? So either put the donut back in the box and start walking or buy a bigger size.”

Everything from having to experience sugar withdrawal to perhaps investing in a lawyer to get through the Big “D” (divorce), to having to find a new BFF and therefore, have no one to go to the movies with for awhile, to having to sit down and draft a new resume; can be scary.

And just for the record; relationships whether personal or professional are for growth, not necessarily for life. Think, really think, about this.

Many times an event in one’s life has come to a point where it’s just complete. Whatever you were meant to receive, to learn, to accomplish – you’ve done it and it’s now time to go forward to something else. No one has to be wrong, no one’s fault. It is just what it is. Not everything is a forever deal.

Look around you at those who stayed in the same career till retirement, the same relationship till someone finally died or the same friendships doing the same Wednesday lunch and weekend getaway foreeeever!!! Some are truly happy and bravo. But, many are not. They’re just stuck.

Then when they finally realize it’s time to get out of Dodge, rather than be honest and ask themselves, what is this really all about. They wait for that crucial piece of straw, that they feel entitles them to go crazy on someone.

They make a list of what’s wrong with the situation at hand. A long list.
They send lengthy emails, continuous texts and post nasty crap on their social media of choice.
They talk and talk and talk to whoever will listen, to their side of the story.
They play the same tape over and over in their head.

Snap out of it! Because, whenever you have to put this much energy into anything to convince yourself that you are right and they or it is wrong and at fault, it is a lie.

The truth is very simple.

I know it’s over.
This is not for me.
I’m not meant to be here anymore.
I’ve outgrown this, it’s time to go forward.
This experience is complete.
I need to pass.
It doesn’t feel right.
No thank you.

Simple.

The lie takes work. The truth is simple.

The lie is aggressive. There can be outbursts of accusing, yelling, wailing, hand cramps from all the writing and texting. It’s exhausting.
The truth is peaceful, a sense of calm, relief, a release comes over you.

To embrace the truth and know it’s time to let go, yes, it’s scary. But when you align to that Inner Voice of yours, Life is watching and it says, “Good for you, I can help you here.” And Life sends you your next step and it’s a step that takes you up and forward and not down and out.

The next time you’re feeling angry, frustrated, stressed, board that once again you’ve said yes to something you wanted to say no to. Ask yourself, “What’s it really all about Alfie?” Before you start writing the list, talking someone’s ear off, or going ape shit on someone who has nothing to do with your stuff. Ask yourself what’s really going on?

I’m sure you’ll hear it. The whisper that’s giving you the truth. “It’s time.”

So take a deep breath and go and go with grace. No screaming is necessary.

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“Relationships are for growth, not necessarily for life;” Stuart Wilde