Talk to You. Because if You Aren’t, Who Is?

Talk to You. Because if You Aren’t, Who Is?

There was a time, talking to yourself was frowned upon. Meant you had probably gone “loopy loop.” Now, it’s called “self talk” and can be quite acceptable. I’m sure there are boundaries. Might not be cool to go to a restaurant. Have a table for two and order for someone who is not physically there and have a conversation with them. At this point you might want to reign it in. But seriously and more appropriately — it’s healthy. We need to talk to ourselves. Because if we aren’t, who is? The Ego! And our lovely egos are more often than not fuelled by fear and not speaking in our favour. It will not be the truth. When you are feeling hurt, wronged, confused, annihilated, cast out, bullied — you need to slow it down and have a conversation. I admit, there are times before I am in the right space to converse, I rant. I spew — chew nails and spit rust and just let all the anger and hurt out. And then I step back and I begin the conversation with ME, just ME. I have to be prepared to listen to Me. Because, She doesn’t always agree with Me.  I listen, because although She may have a different point of view, a slant on my perspective, She does love me and She does want what is best for me. I’ve heard her ask me often, is this the truth? And I have to fess up and answer, “No,” because the ego has taken over. There are times when my Me needs to hear a “Bravo,” “You...
How is Your Heart?

How is Your Heart?

In this time of chaos, confusion, where your head is spinning, thoughts are racing, with a brain that is not necessarily thinking clearly, do you remember to check in with your Heart? To do this you need to stop, sit down, breathe and then tap in and listen. Remember your Heart is your Truth. Your Heart is meant to lead, not your Head. Your Head takes direction from your Heart and then activates the plan, the direction, the choice. However, if you don’t sit with your Heart and allow it the time to speak, your Head can get a tad crazy and your blessed Ego kicks in and you go off in all directions tapping into all the fear and insanity of the past and present and the illusion of an even bat shit crazier future. Heres an exercise I picked up from Gregg Braden. For Breathing, I find the Box Breathing Technique works well. Inhale for 4 counts, Hold for 7 counts, Exhale for 8 counts Go slow, it is never a race. Harmonize Heart & Head Hand on Heart – Attention to the place where you feel the touch Slow Breathing – Feel Safe, Release Create a Feeling – One or a combination For Anyone or Anything You Care about   You Have Appreciation For Gratitude Compassion For This triggers coherence between Heart & Head End with some deep breaths This is an ancient ritual. It taps into your truth and who you are in this world. This is where super learning comes from. Solutions, creativity is activated. Is a process that gives you resilience in this...
How is Your Radiating Metre?

How is Your Radiating Metre?

Universal Law; What you radiate, you attract. What you give, you receive. In the course of your day; do you ever stop and give attention to what you are radiating? What have you been thinking? What have you been saying? How have you been behaving? Our feelings, thoughts, beliefs, words, attitudes, actions. All energy.  They do not remain within us. They radiate out into the ethers, the world, our world, our reality and then, as energy, the corresponding vibration returns to us. Your brain, does not stop and sift.  It does not pause and say to Life;  “Don’t pay attention to them, they’re just caught up in their past and the wounds of yesterday.” “Someone just hurt them; they’re just venting.” “They’ve been drinking, they don’t know what they’re saying.” “They’re frightened, this is just fear. Don’t give them any mind.” “This is just ego, they don’t really mean it.” Your brain in your head is not that smart. It does not know the difference between your fact and your fiction.  It hears your thoughts, feelings, words and to it – it is ALL truth. So out it goes, into the world and back it comes into your reality. And you go – “WHAT?”  “I don’t deserve this!” But, you chose it. Life does not randomly, shit on you. It’s far too busy for random happenings. You’re not the only “people” on the planet. So – just saying, you might want to add this into your daily regime. Right along side of teeth brushing, showers and vitamins. Check in with your radiating metre. What are you radiating?  How far...
Can A Request Be Too Simple?

Can A Request Be Too Simple?

“Please…” (I’m big on the, “Please and Thank you,” not that it necessarily changes the results). Put your laundry in the hamper. Pick up milk on your way home.  Return my book (you’ve had it for 3 months) by the end of the week. Mail my letter. Can you give me a call. And they don’t. So you ask again and again and again;  You do the polite, “Just to remind you…” And they don’t. And then you descend. To the dark place of victim. Where you start to recite to yourself all the times they’ve made requests of you and you’ve followed through on a moments notice, at the drop of a hat, in the blink of an eye. You’ve just done it. And then you go further. Where they have wounded you. And you feel disrespected, unappreciated, not valued, not important, not a priority. But if you reveal your hurt, you sound petty. And the defence begins of how busy they are, how they tried, that they are overwhelmed,  And then silence.  The silence you receive because you are being difficult and asking “waaay” too much. I have been there many times. Recently, I spiralled fast and when you do, it’s a sign that you know better.  You know you’ve succumbed to the past. For myself it is about expecting specific people to respect me, appreciate me, value me, that I am important, that I am a priority.  In short, that I am loved. Here I am, I’ve spiralled so far down, that Life tells me I have lost my dignity. My dignity. This is tragic. I...
I Cut My Thumb

I Cut My Thumb

I have invited a friend for dinner and I am going to cook! Yes, plan a menu, pull out recipes, shop the ingredients and cook. For ages it’s been apps, salads and gelato. I’m back. Sweet Potato Lasagna, salad (I’m even making the dressing) and this lovely vanilla ice cream dessert with a sorbet centre, butterscotch drizzle and raspberry garnish. Now lets not get crazy – I’m not making the ice cream or the sorbet — but I’m orchestrating the architecture of this yummy finale to my amazing entrée. I adore Sweet Potato Lasagna. First time I made this; success. Second time; disaster. Ten years later, the pressure is on.  I’m ready. I bring out the mandolin slicer to of course slice the sweet potato’s — and yes, you may think you know where this is going and you are partially right — but it literally and metaphorically goes sooo much deeper. I forgot the most important ingredient. I genuinely wanted to prepare this meal. Good friend, we’ll enjoy laughter and great conversation. But as I begin, I loose myself and tumble into the ego of self-doubt. What if this bombs? What if I don’t get everything done in time? I must add. I had also committed to washing and ironing fifteen staff shirts for the store opening of my daughters partner. Juggling cooking and laundering.  And then it happens. Pain and a quick and fleeting scream. MY Thumb!! There it is, the amputated portion of my thumb on the counter. I grab it and fling it into the sink and down the drain it disappears as I’m running...