January 21st I posted the Vision Circle. Perhaps you ventured to begin your new vision and if so by now you are starting to attract. Life has come knocking at your door with options. Notice that I say options.
We get excited when Life sends us what we have been envisioning. We jump up and down like we won the lottery, giggling like a crazy person, “It works, it works!!”
Life is watching and nodding, “We’ve got ourselves another rookie.”
We jump, we grab, we plunge into a new reality, without taking a moment to check that what we have attracted is what we had actually written down, we wanted to create.
The New Job:
No more than a 20 minute drive. $25.00 per hour.
You take an interview and they offer you the position. It’s a 30 minute drive, at $20.00 per hour, with the dialogue that in three months they will review and then consider an increase.
The increase is not promised, there is nothing in writing.
But you got offered the job. Yippee!!
You tell yourself that the extra 20 minutes in driving will be okay, you’ll figure it out. $5.00 less per hour – well they said they’d look at it again in three months.
You say yes.
Life, replies, “Okay, off you go. Maybe next time you’ll value your worth.” 
All you have to do is say, “I’ll Pass.”
Life goes, “Well done” and out your desire goes into the ethers to locate what you truly want.
Perhaps you get a little more negotiating savvy and edit your plan to $30.00 per hour, knowing you can come down to $25.00.
The New Relationship:
Your last relationship, or lets be more honest. The only type of relationship you’ve ever known has been ones of abuse and neglect. Never told anything positive, just criticized, ignored and attacked.
Now you’re single and you write out what you want in a relationship. What’s important to you, how you feel you want to be treated and likewise how you are willing to treat someone else.
Life sends you a friend who wants you to meet someone, they feel will be perfect. You say yes.
He’s wonderful, attentive, full of compliments. He just can’t get enough of you. Every time the date ends, he wants to know when he’ll see you next. He’s the one.
Then you disagree or even better you don’t want to do something he wants and then low and behold out it comes. The verbal attack to put you in your place and make you feel inadequate. The classic, ‘I need you to be less, so I can be more,’ pattern.
You stand your ground and say, “Enough.” Life is so proud of you.
But then he apologizes and tells you your beautiful and you decide to give him another chance.
Life, throws up their hands, “Okay, have it your way.”
Remember Life is Free Will and Choice and you’ve made a choice.
All you had to do is say, I like the compliments and attention, but it’s also important that I be with someone who is secure enough to allow me to be me and in turn I allow them to be who they are.
Where relationships are concerned I seemed to attract someone who thought I was wonderful and my daughter was great, but my son was just too different for them and therefore challenged their insecurities. I would tell myself it would work out, I could make it work. Right there – the making it work was a red flag that what I had attracted was not meant to work.
The interesting thing is that our children are an extension of us. Not liking my son, was not liking a part of me and eventually the part of me that was like my son got in the way. It was also very hurtful to my son and damaging to our relationship.
My daughter became invested in this partnership only to have it striped away when I came to my senses and decided to let go and move on. It wasn’t all about me. All three of us were effected.
Not having experienced a loving relationship can cause you to grab at whatever you think resembles it. Too often it isn’t.
Life in its own way is attempting to assist you in establishing new patterns. It sends you some old creations in amongst some new ones, not so much to trick you, but to see if you really love yourself enough to say, “I’ll Pass” and hold out for quality, value, worth and yes, love. Because Life knows you deserve it, it just needs to make sure you do.
If what you are attracting resembles what you’ve already had and what you’ve had you’ve grown out of, be strong and pass. Send it back out to the Universe with clarity as to what you truly want and Life will smile on you with support.
This way, when you jump up and down yelling, “Yeah Me!!” it really will be right.
Life will nod its approval, “Now they’re getting it,” and turn to its team with, “Who do we have next?”
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