Crabs In The Bucket

The theory is that when crabs are in a bucket on the way to being someone’s entrée they unanimously choose to stick together and face their demise. If a rogue crab decides to live and makes for an escape by climbing out of the bucket, the other crabs pull him back in. If they’re headed for a pot of boiling water – the rogue is coming with them. There are people who behave like crabs. The kind that just love to rain on your parade, burst your bubble, pull you down. The disgruntled, the dream-squashers, the guilt-makers, pooh- poohers, Debbie Downers, anger balls – tell me you get it, because I could just keep going. They’re miserable, so you should be too. They make a mistake, so they look for a mistake you’ve made. They are angry, depressed, disappointed with their life and rather than grab hold of your happy disposition, they search for something you’ve done or failed to do and transfer the negativity they are shouldering on to you. They snap at you, dump on you, pick at you, fuel you with doubt – till they have you where they are – at the bottom of the bucket. Rather than latch on to your solution, hopeful optimism – they grab you, pulling you down with the attitude, “If I’m hopeless, so are you”. If they gave you a boost, a leg up – they might be expected to make something of themselves. They might have to change. They might have to abandon their moody, martyrdom of misery. They might have to accept responsibility for being at the...

The Pivot

“Simpler explanations are, other things being equal,generally better than more complex ones”. Occam’s Razor You don’t like the way your day is going – perhaps, you don’t like the way your life is going. Now before you throw in the towel, believing that there is no easy solution. Perhaps it is easier than you think. Start by asking yourself – do you want to support the lie or the truth? Now listen to yourself – hear your thoughts, pay attention to the words that come out of your mouth. Finanaces You have expenses that are approaching and you don’t feel you will have enough money to meet them. “I never have enough money. I don’t know how I’m going to pay for all of this. I knew I should have waited, but I didn’t and now, look what I’ve done; again! Just when I think I can get ahead, something else comes along that I need to pay for. I’m always behind…” PIVOT Release the lie, embrace the truth. What you want the truth to be. “I have the money I need. I meet all financial obligations with ease and on time. I handle my finances wisely. I receive the finances I need from expected and unexpected sources…” Meeting or Interview “I won’t get it. I probably don’t have what their looking for. I don’t even know if I want it. They won’t take my suggestions, no one listens. I’m not good enough…” Is this your truth? Is this what you want? Did I hear you say no? Of course I did – so; PIVOT Into the truth. “I...