Shake It Out, Wash and Flip

Shake It Out, Wash and Flip

My grandmothers were avid spring cleaners. Elsie and Betty knew how to shake it out, wash and flip. An annual event that you did not go without.  Windows and walls were washed.  Furniture was moved and all was vacuumed behind and under. Rugs were hauled out to the clothes line and beaten within an inch of their life. A good time for releasing any pent up hostilities held in over the winter months.  These ladies even had winter and summer curtains. Betty had a  satiny dusty rose living room set that transformed into lime linen slipcovers. Very fashionable. Elsie, a market gardener,  who’s farmhouse undertook the huge task of the dismantling of the storm windows and doors in exchange for summer screens. Mattresses were flipped, dusting and more dusting, cobwebs vanished. Lemons and vinegar filled the air. Mr. Clean and Pine-Sol fumes — those were the days. Then for some reason younger generations got too busy, running from one thing in their calendars to the next. The seasons and what they were suited for became a blur.  After all the Swiffer was invented, just a quick ‘swiff’ and all was considered — good enough.  History refers to the Iranian Nowruz, the Persian New Year that falls on the first day of Spring to be the origin of spring cleaning. A “shaking of the house” took place. Another source is the Jewish Passover where a cleansing of the house occurred in preparation of the occasion. Likewise the Catholics clean the church alter on the Thursday before Good Friday.  During the 19th century coal furnaces created a layer of soot on...
What Do You Empower?

What Do You Empower?

A new year, first month, new week. This is the time we ask ourselves, what do I want to attract? We think, we visualize, we make lists, stick photos on our fridge. And then when nothing comes or something comes and then it goes; we wonder why. Am I underserving, am I doing something wrong or maybe I’m just unlucky or this stuff doesn’t work. It’s all bullshit and life sucks!!! Let’s just say, rather than any of that, let’s take a pause and ask ourselves, What do I empower? What do I give my energy to, what do I invest in, what do I fuel? Trump is an easy one. Everyday he’s in the news. We click into his twitter feed, we talk about him, mock him, criticize him, give opinion to him. We empower him, we fuel him with so much energy. The energy we invest in him is extreme. We have to come to terms and come clean that we get something from it. If only to feel that we are of superior intelligence to his buffoonism. We keep him large. Closer to home: Your work; you bitch daily and go in circles with the same subject of complaint about co-workers, management, customers. Your kids; What they did or didn’t do. And then as they get older and apparently are now the adults; what you did or didn’t do. Your partner; how they never want to do anything, dealing with ‘their’ families disfunction. Friends; disappointing you, judging you, overstepping boundaries, gossiping about you, and in return, you them. Yourself; everything I do is wrong, I’ll never...
Entitled To…

Entitled To…

“They feel so entitled.” Millennials, Management, Members, oh my!! Entitle; to qualify, make eligible, permit, to bestow, to give permission, allow. Originally to be entitled, meant that you gave something and in return you received something. You purchase a membership, you receive discounts, private access, a slice of luxury, networking. You are promoted for outstanding performance to management, you receive a raise, benefits, the opportunity to lead. However, somewhere along the way it all became twisted. What was a balance of giving and receiving, took a turn towards the act of taking that was iced with arrogance. Somehow a kind of misguided thinking occurred. The idea that what was received endorsed low level behaviour. When approached, questioned, given direction or god forbid the low level behaviour be addressed, replies that can be heard are; “I’m a member. You can’t tell me what to do.” To my personal favourite, “Do you know who I am?” And, an all time classic, “You, are nothing to me!” You give and then you receive and then you think you can take. You can take from those around you, because you feel that the act of entitled bestowed this upon you. That you can take away another’s right to be treated with dignity and respect. That you can rob someone of self esteem by belittling and demeaning them.  Such an unfortunate assumption. I am certain that in the fine print of any membership or any promotion there is nothing that states, “Better Than.” I am positive that no one is awarded the privilege where  those outside of the selected circle are to be treated without...