How is Your Radiating Metre?

How is Your Radiating Metre?

Universal Law; What you radiate, you attract. What you give, you receive. In the course of your day; do you ever stop and give attention to what you are radiating? What have you been thinking? What have you been saying? How have you been behaving? Our feelings, thoughts, beliefs, words, attitudes, actions. All energy.  They do not remain within us. They radiate out into the ethers, the world, our world, our reality and then, as energy, the corresponding vibration returns to us. Your brain, does not stop and sift.  It does not pause and say to Life;  “Don’t pay attention to them, they’re just caught up in their past and the wounds of yesterday.” “Someone just hurt them; they’re just venting.” “They’ve been drinking, they don’t know what they’re saying.” “They’re frightened, this is just fear. Don’t give them any mind.” “This is just ego, they don’t really mean it.” Your brain in your head is not that smart. It does not know the difference between your fact and your fiction.  It hears your thoughts, feelings, words and to it – it is ALL truth. So out it goes, into the world and back it comes into your reality. And you go – “WHAT?”  “I don’t deserve this!” But, you chose it. Life does not randomly, shit on you. It’s far too busy for random happenings. You’re not the only “people” on the planet. So – just saying, you might want to add this into your daily regime. Right along side of teeth brushing, showers and vitamins. Check in with your radiating metre. What are you radiating?  How far...
Can We Talk

Can We Talk

Can we talk. Can we hear. Can you read a post on social media, hear a voice in conversation, that isn’t your view, your perspective, your take, your opinion, your belief, your thought… And be comfortable. Or Do you feel the need to correct, attack, judge, talk over, dismiss, defend. If so why? Why are you afraid, lacking in confidence, feeling shame, arrogant, aggressive, self-righteous? Before you talk, think as to why you feel the way you feel. Ask the question. Why?  I envision an art gallery and as I make my way around, viewing each piece I listen to how others are interpreting each creation. What they feel, how it makes them think, what they see. Similar to taking in a film or a discussion at a book club. Some views are the same, some are very different.  Some may make you simply go “Hmmm.” While others might make you shake your head, might make your whole body twitch or cause you to collapse into laughter, or just gratitude. All these interpretations, with an intention of inviting discussion. Inviting – not dismissing, not to rile you into aggression. Is it about winning? And if you “feel” you’ve won, what is the prize? Security, comfort, superiority, power. Will it last or will it be fleeting and leave you scrolling for another post you can jump at or another news report where you can rant and shake a fist at your screen over. Pumping yourself up. Only to deflate again and again, always searching for the next place to pounce. Fear The nagging uncertainty of what is right, what is...
Giving to Ourselves, We Are Better to Each Other

Giving to Ourselves, We Are Better to Each Other

Many times, I have asked; “Do you compliment yourself?”  When you look good, do something well, come up with something brilliant, extend generosity to another – do you recognize you? Do you give recognition to yourself? The response I receive is usually; silence. As if it’s a trick question. If you say yes, will you appear conceited? If you say no, does it imply you see yourself as lacking, possibly even harsher – as less than, because you can’t think of anything worth complimenting? We have these expectations that are based on the beliefs and attitudes of past generations. Which were never true, but served a purpose. It kept many people in their place. The place of being less, so more would follow and less would lead. It was considered self-serving, self-indulgent to acknowledge yourself, pat yourself on the back, give approval to yourself. You were to receive accolades only from others, from the outside.  However, energy doesn’t work this way. It works from within to without. Like energy attracts like energy. This is not new information. But few hear it and even fewer act on it. It’s not about feeling better than.  It’s about knowing you are worthy and deserving. And you will only truly believe this when you prove it by acknowledging yourself. When you give to you, you begin to see more of the good in others.  Giving to yourself, develops confidence in yourself and this grows into the strength to give the same. You notice more. You feel kindness and generosity to extend compliments and in turn recognize those around you. As you give to...
The Sky is Falling or Fall is Coming

The Sky is Falling or Fall is Coming

As I walk through the community gardens, beneath some very stately oak trees the ground is blanketed with discarded leaves and as I value the energy of the oak I stoop to pick some up and then sit with my handful of nature. As I sit the air begins to rain acorns. A new cycle is approaching. Returning home with my fallen treasures, I sit to write and enjoy a morning coffee, the trees are in chaos with energetic squirrels. Black walnuts are dropping and as much as I attempt to focus, I am met with the walnuts encased in their lime green shell rolling along my terrace and up against my feet. There is no escaping. A new season is speaking. The sky is not falling. Fall is simply coming. The air has cooled and the humidity has lifted. The odd leaf has raced ahead and changed to red. Energy in its natural flow does not simply switch on and off.  It eases into and out of. Before you come down with the cold, you feel overwhelmed, overtired. Your system  whispers to you, before it screams with sneezing , an aching body and chills. Before the ceiling collapses, a brown ring forms, perhaps a subtle drip of water and possibly a bulge in the material that holds it all together. Before you have to cut back and come to terms with overspending, you know you used your credit card more than your bank account. Before someone screams and runs out the door, you know the relationship is in jeopardy. There are so many early signs to what may...
Confrontation Through Conversation

Confrontation Through Conversation

People share their problems easily. They voice what bothers them, when they feel they have been slighted, treated unfairly. They give energy to the problem. But when they receive the suggestion to take their concern to the person or institution involved, more often than not, the reply is, “I can’t do that, I don’t like confrontation.” They choose to keep the problem and continue to share it with another. Over and over again sharing, fuelling the problem, not daring to undertake any kind of resolve. When I hear this, “I cant do that, I don’t like confrontation,” I ask,”Have you ever entertained shifting it from confrontation to simply initiating a conversation?” Confrontation has taken on the meaning that it is about a dispute between two people. One person goes to another with an issue and it is invariably presumed that the other must defend.  Or the person who goes in deciding they have the upper hand and they are entitled to take someone to task.  It’s not about listening, engaging in a dialogue where both parties hear the other out with the intention of coming to a mutual understanding, finding a middle ground, deciding on a solution that benefits both parties. Yet the origin of the word ‘confrontation’ comes from Medieval Latin, ‘confrontare’ to come together, to face one another. Nothing about a dispute – simply coming face to face with another. Conversation, is a talk, an engaging of information, ideas.  It is unfortunate that we have lost the ability to confront another (come face to face) in order to engage in a conversation (the sharing of  information, ideas)....
The Body Speaks, But Does It Have Your Attention?

The Body Speaks, But Does It Have Your Attention?

Social Distancing Brought us inside Not to keep us from each other Perhaps to bring us back in touch with ourselves, Where we cannot get away from what we need to get close to. What we need to face. This is how it works. We are a system of various levels. Spiritual, Emotional, Mental, Physical. Now when your system is out of balance, you don’t feel well. You are finding Life a tad too challenging. Something needs addressing.   Your higher self, the Spiritual, sends you a whisper, a nudge — prompting you to do something, pay attention, attend to what has gone amiss and right yourself. But, we brush it off like a pesky fly. And even when that fly returns over and over again, we look for something to kill it with and then feel very satisfied when we do.  That’s how we treat our Spiritual energy more often than not. But the system prevails. This time through our Emotional level.  Now we feel something. But we shrug it off. Ignore it. Stuff it down. Hide it somewhere. Somewhere, where we hope we will forget about it. But the system returns with, “Damn you, I’m not giving up!” And it comes at you through your Mental level. You think it. Your intellect attempts to connect to you. Here, you try to convince yourself. You tell yourself, “It will be okay, I can handle it, weather through, be strong.” When you want to cry, there is always that adult in your head, “Just walk it off.” “Get up, get dressed and you’ll feel better.” Once again, you dismiss,...